Let’s turn back the clock. You’ve gone on your first date with a woman. It went pretty well, but you’re not exactly sure how she feels about you. First dates are first impressions right? Unless you totally blew it, the chances of rounding up that second date with your lady, are probably a lot better than you may think.

It’s a good practice to take the time to review the first date, with pen poised and paper on hand. What did you do together? What did you like about the different things you did together? It helps to understand where you are coming from, and data honed from this exercise will provide a bit of helpful information for preparing to call that lady again. Though subtle in manner perhaps, recalling particular things about the first date in later conversation is a very good way of showing you are interested in this woman.

Before making the follow-up call, activities to boost your confidence are always a plus, as long as not taken too far beyond confidence and itno cockiness, which is definitely not a turn-on for women. Exercise, talking with a good friend, some strenuous activity to raise adrenline are all good ideas for making you feel good about yourself, thus enabling you to dial the number on a positive note.

You’ve recalled all the pleasantries of the first date, your confidence is high, and now it’s time to make that call! Be sure to identify yourself from the beginning of the conversation, so as to avert any possible misidentification on her end. That would only serve to puncture the confidence you’ve just built around yourself. From the start, show interest in her and her life, her day. When you ask questions, the woman will tend to believe you are interested enough to listen to the answers she provides. Women like great listeners! Don’t just listen though, she wants to know your listening, and when you ask a follow-up question to her what she says, that just might help you earn that second date.

Once the conversation has warmed up and become more at ease, inquire as to her plans for later in the week. This will give you better chances of there being availability in her schedule should she care to see you again. If nothing is planned, then it would be a good time to ask her if she’d like to go out again. Be casual yet interested. Maybe say \”get together\” instead of \”second date\”, which may be too stressful of a term for her. If she does have plans, don’t fret, simply tell her why you called; that you had a great time last time you were together, and are interested in doing so again soon. Just remember to keep it easy and light.

If she said \”yes\”, that fantastic! However, she may not have given the answer you were hoping for. In that case, decide if you really want to go out with this particular person again, and if you do, tell her you’d like to see her again when she has some free time. Give her your number and tell her if she’d like to do that, to give you a call when she’s available. Chances are, she may wait until she feels in charge of the situation to go out with you again. Or, maybe there won’t be a call at anytime. Whatever happens, go on with your life! Do not sat waiting by the phone for a call that may never come, or stop living your life.

If she didn’t sound that interested, or time passes and there is no call, it’s okay. Begin again. Think about your conduct on that first date. What were you wearing? Were there any uncomfortable moments? If you did everything right as far as you know, and still there is no second date in sight, then move on. Maybe life just has someone else better suited for you in the future. Use the experience of this passed first date to perfect your next first date. Learn from it and go forward. Give it another shot with someone else.

Most importantly, always be who you are. Never try to be what you might think someone else would like you to be. Not starting out on an honest note, the likelihood of you and anyone making it to the second date are slim. Always be a good, kind, and polite person. Stay involved in the date. Try something new! Following this suggestions, I’m sure that the second date will be easy to rope in.

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