Dating can be your best friend.

…OR your worst adversary.

Often, a guy can feel like a slave to his biological need to procreate.

Then there goes a common quote, “He thinks with his… You know.”

Well it can be hard to NOT think that way if you aren’t physically satisfied.

But men are also goal oriented.

We are doers, and need to achieve things and affect the world in a positive way.

Balancing the two - my urges and achieving my goals is one of the biggest challenges I’ve personally faced.

When you are single, dating can take a lot of time. If you don’t know what you’re doing, women will suck away at your time.

Before you know it, you are spending hours in the park, feeding the birds and cuddling… there’s nothing wrong with spending a quality time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS YOU DON’T compromise YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.

Goals take time, and so do women.

In fact, it’s a woman’s NATURE to get the man’s time - it’s her way of getting you to invest in her. If she gets pregnant there’s a lesser chance of you leaving her (this comes from our caveman days, so to speak).

It is really tricky to manage your time with women. You see, giving their time to women is what most guys WANT to give. By nature men are “givers.” They like to please women, protect them, and give them good feelings.

There is also a urges in men that completely take over your thoughts.

Both of these things can get in the way of you making the most of your life, your time.

I want you take a moment and ask this to yourself, “WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?”

Now I know it wasn’t about “money,” or “control over my life,” or “lots of my free time.”

It was probably something like “good feelings, sexual pleasure, relaxation, excitement, feeling of safety, make her smile or feel good about herself, etc.”

There are two ways that I think why men have problems with how they use their time with women.

First, they overcompensate with other stuff - like spending too much time or money on a woman because they think that the gifts they REALLY wanted to give aren’t that valuable.

Second, they think that when a woman spends her time with them, they are “getting” something valuable.

Guys was brainwash by the society to believe that women are a prize to attain, and that there’s some inherent value in a pretty face.

It’s a LIE!

The best naturals out there see women for what they are, nothing more, nothing less. They are cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that important, AND THEY CAN’T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE!

Now it is really hard to break out of this mental prison of feeling inferior to women.

Your mental habits are subtle and hard to notice because you’ve been doing them for years.

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